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Fertile Mindset


Creating a Fertile Mindset

By Dr. Nashat Latib • Apr 25, 2023

A Guide for Women Who Want to Get Pregnant

If you’ve been on this journey to get pregnant, we’re sure you’ve made some changes and tried some strategies designed to help optimize your physical health for conception. This is a must. But have you committed to optimizing your mindset, too?

What’s going on in your mind can play a huge role in your success in getting pregnant, and today, we want to talk about how you can create a fertile mindset.

Elements of a Healthy Mindset

Your fertile mindset consists of 3 main facets: being mindful of what and how you eat, how you think, and how you interact with your partner.

Being Mindful of What and How You Eat

We have other articles that talk about what to eat. Read Top 5 Nutritional Deficiencies and Optimize Your Fertility and Pregnancy with Prenatal Nutrition for more. But we haven’t talked about mindful eating before. Mindful eating involves the environment you create around eating too. Some top strategies for mindful eating are as follows:

  • Don’t eat while distracted! Try to eat without a screen (no phone or TV).
  • Focus on chewing each bite thoroughly.
  • Eat slowly to avoid overeating and don’t skip meals.
  • Engage as many senses as possible. Take notice of the taste, smell, texture, etc, as you eat.

How You Think

Your beliefs guide your thoughts, feelings, and, ultimately, actions. A positive mindset is key when you’re on your fertility journey.

Unfortunately, we’ve evolved into ruminating on the negative much more than the positive. And if you’re like many people, you see the news, and almost everything seems negative. So avoiding that negativity and cultivating a more positive mindset will require effort. We’ll get into our 2 favorite strategies below (Goal Setting and Gratitude).

How Your Interact with Your Partner

Do you take time to be present with your partner or are you often distracted? How often do you spend quality time together?

Finding out that you have a fertility challenge can be stressful for both partners. Working together is essential during this already challenging time. Here are some strategies to consider:

  • Schedule a weekly date in advance and enjoy each other’s company.
  • Set boundaries around technology usage when you are together.

Goal Setting for Fertility

Being clear and specific about your goals for your fertility is just as important as being specific about goals in any other area of your life. Here is a brief overview of the 3-tier approach to goal setting that we teach our clients.

1. Envision what you want.

Get clear on what you actually want. It’s easy to fixate on what you don’t want, so we encourage you to get super clear on what you want. Whether it’s getting better sleep, having a better mood, trying to incorporate meditation twice a day into your daily habits, or a little bit of exercise or walking first thing in the morning, take the time to clearly envision where you want to be and actually write it down. 

2. Recognize the why.

Why do you want what you want? For example, when it comes to having a baby, what would having a baby bring into your life right now?

3. Focus on what you can control and forget about what you cannot.

Not everything that affects your health is within your control. For those things you cannot control, try not to let them pervade your thoughts. Instead, productively focus on what you can change.

If you’d like to learn more about what it looks like to work with us, click here to watch our free, on-demand masterclass and discover the proprietary 4R Fertility FormulaTM we use to help you get pregnant naturally or get better results with IVF and IUI.

The Mindset Secret Weapon: Gratitude

What is Gratitude?

Gratitude is the act of being thankful. Appreciate the good things in your life, big or small, and you’ll see your mindset shift from negativity to positivity.

Benefits of Gratitude

Gratitude has a multitude of benefits, including:

  • Improved mental health: Gratitude has been shown to reduce symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress.
  • Boosted happiness: Appreciating the good things in our lives can help us feel happier and more satisfied.
  • Deeper relationships: Gratitude and appreciation for the people in your life can help you build strong relationships and foster connections with others.
  • Better physical health: Gratitude can lower your blood pressure, improve your sleep, and strengthen your immune system.

Tips for Cultivating Gratitude

Now that we’ve sold you on adopting a gratitude practice, here are our favorite recommendations for cultivating gratitude:

  1. Mindfulness. Being present and honoring your thoughts and feelings is key and can help you develop a sense of thankfulness for all you already have.
  2. Keep a gratitude journal: Try writing down 3-5 things you’re grateful for every morning or evening. Over time it really helps you see all the good things already happening for you.
  3. Let other people know when you’re grateful for them. This can support you in developing deeper relationships.
  4. Try using visual reminders: Think about using post-it notes or photos and sticking them on your bathroom mirror or displaying them in other places you will often see for a consistent reminder of what you’re grateful for.

Cultivating a grateful mindset can have a powerful impact on our mental and physical health, relationships, and overall well-being. By practicing gratitude regularly, we can shift our focus from what we lack to what we have, leading to greater happiness and contentment.

Final Thoughts

Developing your own fertile mindset is a critical facet of your fertility journey. We’ve given you an overview of how to do this in your own life, and we hope you pick a few of these strategies and run with them.

Please know that the journey to fertility can take some time, but it doesn’t have to take forever. Our clients often get results in 3-6 months or less than a year.

If you would like our support to walk through the process step by step, we are here for you! Watch our free, on-demand masterclass here and take the action step to apply when it’s presented to you.


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